Creating the isolation you feel

Some of you are in unimaginable emotional pain right now. Life is HARD. 

If you are feeling alone it might be time to reflect on how, in your pain, you are pushing away the very support you need right now.

Growing up, evolving, learning, experiencing, connecting with others, disconnecting from others, losing jobs/homes/relationships/loved ones/futures/dreams/health/physicality/love - all these things are really, really tough experiences to live through and with. 

There is no doubt, that when we are in the midst of our pain, we can feel that we are surrounded by people who don't understand or who say/do the wrong thing in attempting to 'help' us.

At the time, it feels like there is no-one more lonely anywhere on the planet!

We have to be careful at this point to ensure we are not believing this idea of our isolation so much that we are pushing away the people in our lives who love and care about us ... in the process disconnecting ourselves from our support network. 

(Sure, they may be the ones saying things that sound empty, cliche, inappropriate or downright stupid - but that does not mean they don't care about us). 

What we need most at times like this are our friends, our family, our partners, colleagues, group members - because in most cases, they are the key to our survival. 

We can get support from these people in our lives by telling them what we want or do not want from them. 

They are not mind readers - I can promise you that. They don't know exactly what we need so they are fumbling around the darkness trying to work it out (often annoying us in the process). Their intentions are good. 

But only we know what we really need right now. 

We don't have to do this alone. Alone is a choice too! Reach out for help - especially where it's being offered. Do it today. 

Sarah xx